“What people get wrong about reinvention is that they think they have to be ready. Instead change makes ready.”
~Professor Herminia Ibarra
I have this big thing going on in my life that I feel I need to write about. After all, this is a personal blog, and I am not one to present my life as all pretty pictures, lovely homeschooling days, crafts and home-cooked meals.
But at the same time, I think, “nobody wants to hear about my problems, my struggles.” And then I remember that sometimes, sharing our struggles is the best gift of all. We all think we are alone in our unhappiness, but so often, when I read of others struggling, I feel a sense of relief. And of connection. We are not alone.
And so here I am, having a really down day. This week makes four months since my husband lost his job. Four months of application after application. The anticipation following the interviews. And the let-downs of hearing “no” once again.
If this is hard for me, I cannot imagine how much harder it is for my dear husband. He is a wonderful husband and father and has always been considerate and thoughtful. He does grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, and child-care. But he is also traditional in that he wants to take care of his family financially.
And to add to our roller-coaster ups and downs, we are changing our lifestyle – downsizing, simplifying, re-arranging our priorities. We are joining the many “back to the landers” and learning homesteading skills. Planning an exit from our suburban life.
We have spent the past two years researching where we want to create our new life. And last year we made our decision.
Even though our desire is to live on less, my part-time income currently does not support our suburban mortgage, taxes, food costs, utilities, and let’s not forget, the incredible cost of health care for this family of five.
So why not sell the suburban home and do the downsizing we intend to do anyway?
Indeed, why not?
So what is holding us back? Fear of course. Fear of the unknown. Fear of failure. Fear of making a wrong decision. Fear of discomfort.
It’s interesting to me that I think the advice I would give is to remember that what we perceive as failures, or mistakes, well, we could reframe our thoughts and consider them experiments. We try something. If it doesn’t work out, we try something else.
“Everything you want most in the world is just beyond the range of your comfort zone.”
I guess that’s it then isn’t it?
Finding courage and taking the leap.
Do you have things you want to try but are afraid to fail?